Hi! I’m Faith Hillman, and I’m married to Rusty Thorne, aka Mr. Sinful. Yes, I have taken his surname (Thorne, not Sinful), but I still go by the name Hillman for the blog. (And no, I didn’t promise to obey him in my vows. He did want to include a separate clause for the bedroom, though. I must admit, I was tempted. I like contracts!)
If you’ve read Mr. Sinful, the story of how we got together, you’ll already know the kind of things I like to talk about - topics that are important to women. Yes, that includes wine and chocolate! And careers, and families, and romance, and love, and yes, sex as well :-)
I like discussing Important Topics, like politics, religion, and history (happy, Mr. S?), but the subject of this blog is Life, Love, and the Pursuit of Great Sex. It’s about being a woman in today’s world, a world in which we’re often told that we can only be successful if we’re the CEO of an international company, have ten kids, a stick-thin figure, a passion for quinoa, and enough energy to swing from the chandeliers every night.
If you do have all these things, then, well, that’s great! But I don’t think I’m alone in admitting I’m less than spectacular in all these areas. And you know what? That’s fine! Because life isn’t about being perfect. I have a great life, I’m ecstatically happy ninety-nine percent of the time, and I count my blessings every day.
I want to make it clear that I’m not striving for perfection. If you absolutely hate going to work, then maybe it would be a good idea to try to find something that doesn’t make you throw up every Monday morning, but I believe you don’t have to run your own company, or be a firefighter, or a movie star, to be ‘successful’. Women all over the world work in shops, as secretaries, as cleaners, or as waitresses, doing important jobs that pay, or help to pay, the household bills. And you’re all amazing!
If you’re in a relationship, and you find time to talk to your loved one about their day, and you do your best to show them how much you love them, you’re amazing!
If you have a family, and you care for them, and you do your best to keep them happy and healthy without driving yourself insane, you’re amazing!
If you’re in a sexual relationship, and you enjoy it, and you have fun, and you’re open with communication, you’re amazing!
I have a successful career as a journalist/blogger, I’m happily married, and I have three wonderful kids now (Pippa, who’s five, Callum, who’s three, and Ruby, who’s nearly one). But I’m the first to admit there’s room for improvement in all areas of my life. Sometimes my family has to give way for my career; at other times, I have to put my career aside to give my family the attention it needs. It’s hard to balance them both. And with three kids around and no lock on the bedroom door, there’s always room for improvement in my love life.
At root, I want to be the best person I can be, and I’m sure you feel the same. I want to find ways to be confident, strong, and successful in my own right, as well as being a great mum, a loyal friend, and a fantastic and supportive wife both in and out of the bedroom. I don’t want to be perfect. But sometimes a few tips here and there can bring a little sparkle back in places that might have dimmed a bit :-)
Let's put a bit of sparkle back into our lives together!
So join me here on the blog, and together we can go on an adventure of Life, Love, and the Pursuit of Great Sex!
Today, I’m asking Rusty a simple question – tell me three things men wish for most in the bedroom. Nothing deep and meaningful here! But it would be interesting to know what you come up with off the top of your head. Is there a sexual position all women should learn? A particular technique? What would Mr. Sinful say?
Trust Faith to jump straight in the deep end…
Okay, what do men wish for in the bedroom?
Welll, first of all, if like us you have little kids, a full night of blissful sleep might be handy. Does that count, Faith? :-)
I think a very important element is a sense of fun. Not dressing as a clown (could be a bit disturbing), but a willingness to enjoy sex and not make every occasion a solemn lovemaking session. There is definitely a time and place for that, but not every time has to be the session of the year. It is good to let your hair down (not literally. Well, sometimes.) And quickies are fun!
Personally, and I don’t profess to be the voice of all men, but I think smell is a vital component to a sizzling sex life. Not just perfume, but clean bodies, shower gel, and natural sexual aromas… I don’t mean smelling like a builder who's been carrying bricks all day! But the clean, pampered female form is a massive turn on for guys (well this guy, anyway.)
I think frantic bedroom gymnastics are all well and good, but taking time, slowly inching up the body with kisses etc is also a wonderful way to connect… it does not even have to lead anywhere (though knowing us it inevitably will!)
The basic thing I think is that there are so many ways to enjoy sex that it would be a shame to miss out on too many, so having a partner who is eager to embark on a voyage of sexual discovery is a wondrous thing…
So there you go, my delicious sinners. From the mouth of the man himself... And for writing that, Mr. S., I promise you I'll see to the kids tonight so you can have a whole night's sleep for once! How's that for the perfect wife?